Codependency is an emotional disorder that causes sufferers to ignore their own needs while constantly fulfilling the needs of others. A sufferer may forfeit his or her own well-being and values in the pursuit of assisting someone else.

After experiencing relationship trauma, codependents often form unhealthy relationships due to feelings of low self-worth. Codependents often enter relationships with individuals who are irresponsible, emotionally detached or excessively needy. Such relationships are likely to be emotionally and sometimes physically abusive. As a result, codependents tend to be downtrodden and oppressed in their relationships.

What are the effects of Codependency?

Individuals suffering from codependency will repress their emotions and needs to the point that they are subjected to relationship trauma and extremely low self-esteem.

If unaddressed, codependency continues, causing individuals to cope with their emotions by abusing alcohol, drugs, sex or food. Those who seek emotional relief in food can develop eating disorders without realizing the transition.

Argie Spuck helps clients look beyond their symptoms and consider the emotional and relational trauma behind codependency in order to better understand their unhealthy coping mechanisms. Call Argie Spuck at 954-822-9793 to schedule an appointment.

Trauma can be a single event or a series of traumatic events that are repeated over time causing an individual to become overwhelmed with painful, frightening or loathing emotions. Over the last few years, the definition of psychological trauma has been broadened to include traumatic experiences such as physical abuse, sexual abuse and verbal abuse.

Trauma survivors may have experienced emotional childhood trauma in the form of an abusive parent or loved one. This type of abusive trauma may take the form of overt abuse such as demanding, demeaning verbal attacks, or it could be in the form of physical or sexual abuse; or covert abuse such as emotional abandoment or neglect.

No matter what the type of childhood trauma, the negative impact on the victims is deep and lasting. Just as two people may not experience an event in the same way, no two people react to a stressful, traumatic event in the same way. While one person may find the ability to cope with a traumatic event, another may be unable to deal with the trauma by themselves in a productive manner.

What are the effects of trauma?

When a person is unable to deal with traumatic events, he or she will often feel alone and struggle with recurring feelings of worry, fear and worthlessness. Trauma sufferers often have difficulty in relationships and in dealing with emotional challenges, as well as low self-esteem due to the traumatic experience and feelings associated with the trauma.

Trauma victims are haunted by memories that feel completely real and can cause the victims to become silent sufferers who believe that their lives are destined to repeat past events. Experiences in a person’s life can trigger a recurring experience of the original trauma, which makes healing from the original trauma an extremely important goal. Many trauma sufferers choose to deal with their feelings alone, instead of seeking appropriate professional treatment. These people may turn to substance abuse to dull the feelings associated with the trauma and the pain that comes with those feelings. It is common for trauma survivors to also have issues with drug addiction, alcohol addiction or other addictions as they attempt to cope with the original issue instead.

Argie Spuck helps trauma victims heal and learn the skills necessary to cope with the devastating, and often hidden, effects of trauma. The trauma model we utilize was specifically designed for trauma survivors by Pia Mellody. Call Argie Spuck at 954.822.9793 to help you create a life of recovery, peace and healing.

Working from a clinical model based on addiction and trauma, Argie Spuck helps partners impacted by the destruction of sexual compulsion begin to heal from intimate betrayal. she assists partners to move through their grief and loss, break free from the attachment to fantasy, and enhance emotional self-regulation. Developing both internal and external and sexual boundaries, partners learn how to move from a position of victimization to personal empowerment.

Argie Spuck creates a safe and compassionate environment for  partners to examine their relationships, improve their communication skills, set boundaries, realize their goals and explore means of self-empowerment. She helps partners to repair/heal the trauma they experienced from the addiction; learn to create meaning out of seemingly senseless behavior; and restore a solid sense of self by drawing on inner resources.

Argie has completed training with Pia Mellody (Post-Induction Therapy) and APSATS (Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model) and one of her primary specialties is working with partners facing the pain of sex addiction.  It takes specialized care to get the help you need to face the complexities of this addiction and its relational, emotional, spiritual, and physical consequences.  If you are ready to take the next step towards healing, please call Argie Spuck at 954-822-9793. This addiction is cunning, baffling, and powerful, so don’t wait another day to get the help you need.

Love addiction is described as one person “loving” another person with an obsessive intensity that is not in the best interest of either party. Love addiction is a painful, compulsive and addictive disorder that negatively impacts not only the addict but the object of their obsession. Argie Spuck helps clients to overcome root issues and take steps towards experiencing healthy, fulfilling relationships.

What are the effects of love addiction?

Love addicts tend to focus a tremendous amount of energy on romantic relationships—whether they are involved in one, looking for the next one or avoiding one altogether. They tend to become involved in brief, intense romantic relationships. If they are involved in a long-term relationship, it is usually characterized by many highs and lows. In some cases, love addicts completely withdraw from romantic or sexual relationships to avoid feelings of vulnerability.

The causes of love addiction are rooted in childhood trauma. Individuals lacking self-esteem or who had less-than-nurturing childhoods may grow up looking for constant reassurance from others. Love addicts also tend to enjoy the feeling of excitement that being “in love” brings.

Argie Spuck goes beyond the symptoms to treat the underlying issues behind the love addiction—childhood trauma, low self-esteem and codependency. If you have problems with love addiction, call Argie Spuck at 954-822-9793 to schedule an appointment.

Love avoidance is the refusal to show love for someone out of fear of being hurt. Individuals who turned to love avoidance carefully guard themselves when in relationships. These individuals avoid intimacy in order to protect themselves from rejection, loss and the types of pain that accompany an intimate relationship.

What are the effects of love avoidance?

People who suffer from love avoidance do everything they can to conceal their vulnerability from others, especially loved ones. Love avoidance does not literally mean avoiding love, rather it is an unhealthy way of reacting to relationship trauma. Love avoidants have past experiences of feeling unwanted or unloved, which result in a need for excessive acceptance, praise and compliments from their spouses, partners or loved ones in order to enhance their self-esteem.

Love avoidants act in extremes, such as taking steps to avoid meeting sexual and emotional needs, which can lead to self-destruction. They become afraid of commitments and emotional attachments.

Argie Spuck uncovers underlying issues in order to begin the healing process at the root of the problem. she doesn’t just address the symptoms; she also addresses the issues and factors that contributed to the condition in the first place.

If you have problems with love avoidance, call Argie Spuck at 954-822-9793 to schedule an appointment.

The ending of a romantic relationship is an extraordinarily painful event. Whether you’ve been dating for a year, or married for thirty, you may be overcome with feelings of sorrow, anger, fear, and guilt. You are mourning the loss of someone significant in your life and saying farewell to your dreams of an eternity together. Recovering from a breakup or divorce is not only possible, it is probable. The first months tend to be very difficult and are likely overwhelmed with numerous thoughts and feelings – many that feel quite foreign.

Argie Spuck will help you to fully recover from your breakup or divorce. She will help you get a better understanding of your feelings, family of origin, how family patterns may have influenced and impacted your relationship, and a clearer narrative about the details of your relationship and breakup.

Please call Argie Spuck at 954-822-9793 to schedule an appointment.

Most of us experience anxiety and depression throughout our lives.  As our bodies change, and as our lives change around us anxiety and depression can arise.  For some, though, anxiety and depression are crippling.  It is incredibly debilitating to be so depressed that you can’t get out of bed or to be so anxious that you are having panic attacks.

If you are facing anxiety and/or depression as a result of a transition or some other cause, we can work to help you ease your painful symptoms and also keep these symptoms from crippling you in the future.  Fears, anxiety, and depression keeps us from being who we were fully created to be.  I am passionate about helping people find themselves again and to find true healing. If you are experiencing anxiety or depression, call Argie Spuck at 954-822-9793 to schedule an appointment.

Work addiction is a condition in which individuals are unable to set healthy boundaries around their job schedules. Work addicts use work as their source of satisfaction in life. This choice not only affects the addict, but family and co-workers as well.

What are the effects of work addiction?

Work addicts are constantly driven to perform and are unable to relax or feel a sense of accomplishment. Their behaviors are self-imposed and based on inaccurate self-perceptions, stemming from underlying emotional problems. Work addicts generally exaggerate their importance and accomplishments, using work to avoid negative emotions.

Argie Spuck looks beyond the symptoms of work addiction and treat the addict’s core issues of self-esteem, moderation, reality, dependence and boundaries. If you are having problems with work addiction, call Argie Spuck at 954-822-9793 to schedule an appointment.